Early recovery can feel hollow. The space we previously filled with addictive substances and behaviors, once emptied, is just empty. And it takes a long time to refill it with healthy stuff.
Sex and porn addicts share certain characteristics. One of these common traits is that we try to use sex to bring intensity and excitement into our lives. Unfortunately, as we continually and compulsively chase sexual intensity, it becomes more difficult to experience the ‘high’ that we seek. This is because our brains adjust, over time, to the excessive levels of dopamine and adrenaline generated by our addictive sexual behaviors. Less of these neurochemicals are produced, and it becomes more difficult for our brains to receive those neurochemicals when they are produced. Essentially, our brains adjust in ways that dim our ability to feel intensity the same way we might dim the light in our dining room. So we need more sex or more intense versions of sex to feel the excitement that we once enjoyed. This is how sex and porn addiction (and all other forms of addiction) escalate.
Task for Today
Accept that your addiction caused your brain to adjust, and it will take time (perhaps a year or more) for your brain to return to baseline.