Non-addicts can (and usually do) limit or stop their behaviors if/when they start to experience adverse consequences.

At-risk users of sexual fantasy and activity are men and women who go through periods of intense engagement with non-intimate sexuality, perhaps using it as a distraction from emotional discomfort and other life issues. Sometimes at-risk users look a lot like addicted users, hiding the nature and extent of their sexual behaviors, temporarily ignoring potential and even actual consequences, and escalating the nature and extent of their use. What differentiates at-risk users from addicted users is at-risk users can stop the activity on their own while addicted users cannot. At-risk users retain control and choice over their engagement with non-intimate sexual fantasy and activity. Addicted users do not.

Just for Today
Think of three times when you lost control and choice over your sexual behavior.