Blaming Others

Sex addicts often place blame for their addiction on the actions of others.

One long-sober sex addict sometimes jokes, “I didn’t come into sexual recovery to heal or change my behaviors. I just wanted to know who I should blame.” In truth, blaming others is a significant part of most sex addicts’ denial. Instead of accepting that they may have a serious issue, they ignore complaints and attempted interventions and accuse others of nagging, being prudish, trying to stifle them, failing to understand them, and asking too much of them. They do this not because they truly don’t care about other people’s thoughts and feelings, but because they “need” to protect their addiction.

Just for Today: Who did you choose to blame your addiction on? Can you stop blaming them and start taking responsibility?