• Working Step One: The Powerlessness Inventory
    Friday, January 8th, 2021

    Working Step One: The Powerlessness Inventory

    Step 1 reinforces our ‘moment of clarity,’ cementing our desire for recovery. Being powerless means we have lost control over our sexual behaviors. We engage in these behaviors compulsively,...
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  • Can a Behavior Be an Addiction?
    Thursday, January 7th, 2021

    Can a Behavior Be an Addiction?

    Whether you sniff it, smoke it, eat it, or shove it up your ass the result is the same: addiction. Sex and porn addiction are, in most ways, the...
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  • What is Denial?
    Wednesday, January 6th, 2021

    What is Denial?

    As addicts, we tell huge and powerful lies – most of all to ourselves. Active sex and porn addicts routinely ignore warning signs of problematic behavior – ruined relationships,...
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  • What is ‘Sexual Sobriety’?
    Tuesday, January 5th, 2021

    What is ‘Sexual Sobriety’?

    The ultimate goal of sexual recovery is learning to be sexual in healthy, life-affirming ways. People not familiar with sex and porn addiction often think that sexual sobriety, like...
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  • Just Another Way to Numb Out
    Monday, January 4th, 2021

    Just Another Way to Numb Out

    Sex and porn addiction are not about feeling good, they’re about feeling less. Sex and porn addicts use sexual fantasy and behavior to ‘numb out’ and escape from stress...
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  • Connection is the Key to a Happy Recovery
    Sunday, January 3rd, 2021

    Connection is the Key to a Happy Recovery

    Loneliness is the most terrible poverty. An immense amount of mental and physical health research shows that isolated/separated individuals suffer both emotionally and physically. Conversely, people who place a...
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  • Stocking Your Toolbox
    Saturday, January 2nd, 2021

    Stocking Your Toolbox

    Addicts must shape the tools of their recovery. Thereafter, the tools will shape them. As recovering sex and porn addicts, we know that triggers toward acting out in our...
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  • The Need to Work Step One
    Friday, January 1st, 2021

    The Need to Work Step One

    The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. In 12-Step sexual recovery meetings, we often hear discussion about ‘hitting bottom’ and the resultant ‘moment of clarity’...
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  • Does Your Life Have Purpose?
    Thursday, December 31st, 2020

    Does Your Life Have Purpose?

    Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction. We all have something we’re good at that we love to do. If we’re lucky (and smart), we turn...
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