Shame is an antisocial emotion. Talking about shame is the social solution.
As active sex and porn addicts, we spent our days trying very hard to not feel our shame. We did this by escaping into sexual fantasy and behavior. Other shame avoidance coping mechanisms we may have turned to include isolating, keeping secrets, people-pleasing, and being aggressive, along with drinking, drugging, gambling, spending, etc. Unfortunately, all the mechanisms that we used to avoid our feelings of shame simultaneously prevented meaningful interpersonal connection, which happens to be the only proven way to abolish and destroy shame.
Task for Today
Identify three shameful beliefs that you have about yourself. Share these with a friend and ask for feedback.