The satisfaction of instincts cannot be the sole aim of our lives.
Hookup apps can be incredibly problematic for sex addicts. For many of us, they’re like crack cocaine, especially if we’re seeking in-the-flesh sexual encounters as part of our addiction. The primary appeal of hookup apps is that they present us with an entire universe of readily available potential sexual partners—helpfully arranged, thanks to geolocating software, from nearest to furthest away. And a person’s marital status, hobbies, job, religion, goals, and worldview don’t matter on these apps because they’re all about the quick encounter. No muss, no fuss, just the sex, thank you very much. In our addiction, many of us posted profiles on multiple apps simultaneously, staying logged in to all of them 24/7 and checking them compulsively. We may also have found ourselves looking for the next sexual encounter before we were done with the current sexual encounter. That is the power of apps.
Task for Today
Think about your use of hookup apps. Are apps a bottom-line behavior for you? Why or why not?