How to Handle the Holidays

When I stopped living in the problem and began living in the answer, the problem went away.

The holiday season is, for most people, a joyful time filled with family, friends, and celebrations. For recovering sex addicts, however, these weeks can be the most stressful time of the year. Being (or at least pretending to be) happy, celebratory, and emotionally present feels both unnatural and uncomfortable for us. If we’re not careful, we can become overwhelmed by this pressure, and in response we might revert to old, unhealthy behaviors. If we are already struggling with sobriety, we may find our addiction escalating. As such, it is incredibly important to recognize the “danger zone” of the holidays, and to vigilantly maintain our recovery-oriented activities. This is NOT the time to cancel therapy sessions, to postpone a meeting with a sponsor, or to skip any of our regular 12-step meetings. In fact, we may want to attend a few extra meetings and check in with our sponsor more often.

Just for Today
Devote some extra time and attention to recovery, no matter how “pressing” the holidays feel.