Learning to Disagree in Healthy and Productive Ways

Honest disagreement is a sign of relationship progress.

Disagreements are inevitable, even in good relationships. And that’s a good thing. Believe it or not, arguments can evolve into deeper relationship intimacy. Plus, the desire to argue is a strong indication that a relationship is worth saving. Think about it: Do you argue with people you don’t care about, over topics you don’t care about? Probably not. The trick, of course, is learning to resolve conflicts healthfully, in ways that strengthen rather than diminish a relationship. If you are listening to and hearing the other person’s side of an argument, that’s a very good sign. When that happens, you are not fighting each other, you’re fighting the problem – as members of the same team.

Just for Today
When you disagree with someone, ask them to explain their opinion and really listen to their response.