Addiction is the cause of, not the solution to, our unhappiness.
As active sex and porn addicts, we rarely viewed our escapist sexual fantasies and behaviors as the cause of our unhappiness and life challenges. Even when we were neck-deep in consequences, we somehow didn’t let ourselves think about our sexual acting out as a contributing factor. In fact, we typically saw our behavior as the solution to rather than the cause of our emotional discomfort and various life problems. When life went wrong for us, our addiction seemed to us to be the one sure way to escape it. And we continued with this unhelpful pattern until a crisis hit—and sometimes we stuck with our addiction even after a crisis.
Task for Today
Think of three ways to cope with your problems that don’t involve sex or porn.