Don’t be different just to be different. Do it to be the most authentic version of yourself.
Long-term monogamy may be the goal for some (maybe even most) recovering sex and porn addicts, but it is not by any stretch a necessity. In today’s world, healing from sex and porn addiction can encompass almost any sort of sexual or romantic connection—as long as it’s not secretive, abusive to self or others, used to avoid feelings, or causing problems to ourselves or our loved ones. Sexual recovery is less about cultural norms like monogamy and more about the elimination of problematic sexual activity and the development of sexual integrity. Each of us has a unique background and unique goals, so it’s OK (even expected) that we will each have a highly individualized definition of and plan for sexual sobriety.
Task for Today
Stop comparing your sexual sobriety plan to everyone else’s.