When everything seems to be going against you, remember that airplanes take off against the wind, not with it.
Even though we nearly always require outside assistance if we hope to heal, the first step on our healing journey is an internal one—deciding that we actually want help with our addiction. Typically, this willingness to enter into the often-difficult process of recovery arises because we’ve experienced negative consequences related to our sexual behaviors. Usually, our relationship, job, standing in the community, or freedom is threatened. Occasionally, our motivation is internal; we just don’t like the person we’ve become and we want to change. It doesn’t really matter where the initial impetus for recovery comes from—even superficial remorse is a good start—as long as the impetus is there to some degree.
Task for Today
Think about why you want to recover. Talk about your reasons in therapy, a 12-step meeting, or with a friend in recovery.