For porn addicts, shame is the master emotion.
Porn addicts are often reluctant to seek help. Sometimes this is because they don’t view their solo sexual behaviors as an underlying source of their unhappiness. Other times it’s because they’re too ashamed to admit they’re struggling with something that feels (to them) incredibly shameful. If they do seek assistance, it’s often for their addiction’s related symptoms – depression, loneliness, and relationship woes – rather than the porn problem itself. Many have attended psychotherapy for extended periods without ever discussing (or even being asked about) pornography. Unfortunately, until porn addicts talk about their porn use and the problems they’re having as a result, the behavior and its consequences will continue.
Just for Today
Tell your therapist, sponsor, or a friend in recovery one secret you are keeping about your porn use or some other sexual behavior.