Sex and Porn Addiction Are Not About Sex. They’re About Escape.

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You can’t avoid reality forever.

Sex and porn addicts share certain characteristics. One of these common traits is that starting in adolescence (and sometimes earlier) we learned to use sexual fantasy and masturbation to avoid feelings. And we continued this tendency into our adult lives. In other words, we learned early on that sex could be used to escape emotional discomfort. Often, it was the easiest and most reliable form of self-soothing and emotional regulation we could find, so it became our go-to coping mechanism. Stated another way, we learned to use sexual fantasy and masturbation for the same reason alcoholics drink and drug addicts use—to escape fear, stress, depression, anxiety, boredom, and anything else we didn’t want to feel.

Task for Today
When you experience emotional discomfort, sit with it and experience it instead of numbing out with your addiction.