Sex without love is as hollow and ridiculous as love without sex.
Sex and porn addicts share certain characteristics. One of these common traits is that we are unable to differentiate between sex, love, and affection. Typically, this is the result of a dysfunctional childhood – abusive, neglectful, or inconsistent parenting. Because we did not get the healthy attention, emotional regulation, and relationship modeling we needed, our ideas about sex, love, and affection are jumbled and confused. Any attention, especially sexual attention, feels like love. But affection and sex are not the same thing as love. As part of our longer-term sobriety and recovery, we must reparent ourselves as to the feelings and meanings of affection, love, and sexual behavior.
Just for Today
Think of three ways to integrate sex, love, and affection. Share these ideas in a meeting and ask for feedback.