When people will not weed their own minds, they are apt to be overrun by nettles.
Sexual boundary plans are created to define sexual sobriety and to provide recovering sex and porn addicts with clear plans for a healthier, happier life. When sexual boundaries are not clearly defined, we are far more likely to decide in the moment (with a bit of rationalizing, minimizing, justifying, etc.) that a certain activity is acceptable within the bounds of our plan, even if that behavior (or a similar behavior) has been wildly problematic in the past. Knowing this, we absolutely must be clear, concise, and definite with our sexual boundary plans.
Just for Today
Identify weak spots in your sexual boundary plan that leave you with wiggle room for acting out. Share this information with your therapist and your 12-step sponsor so you can strengthen your boundaries.