When people will not weed their own minds, they are apt to be overrun by nettles.
Sexual boundary plans are created to define sexual sobriety and to provide recovering sex addicts with a clear plan for a healthier, happier life. When sexual boundaries are not clearly defined, sex addicts are more likely to decide in the moment (with a bit of rationalizing, minimizing, justifying, etc.), that a certain activity is acceptable within the bounds of their plan, even if that behavior (or a similar behavior) has been wildly problematic in the past. Knowing this, recovering sex addicts should be clear, concise, and definite with their boundary plans.
Just for Today
Can you identify weak spots in your sexual boundary plan that leave you with wiggle room for acting out? If so, share this with your therapist and/or your sponsor so you can strengthen your plan.