For sex addicts, it takes incredible strength and courage to admit the truth.
Creating an effective sexual boundary plan requires brutal honesty on the part of not just the addict, but the addict’s advisors. Unfortunately, if we want to continue with a particular behavior, no matter how problematic, we can usually convince someone to agree that it’s not such a big deal and to sign off on it. If we and our advisors cannot (or will not) see the truth of our situation, our problematic behaviors will continue and our life will not get better. We need to remember that the purpose of a sexual boundary plan is to end the incomprehensible demoralization wrought by our sexual addiction, not to justify its continuation.
Just for Today
I will take an honest look at whether I’m keeping any secrets about my sexual addiction as a way to create leeway for acting out.