Ascent is always difficult. Descent is easy and often slippery.

Sexual sobriety plans are not set in stone. In fact, we often spend a month or two (or a year or two) with a particular set of boundaries and then realize that our plan needs adjustment. (Recent developments in digital technology have forced many of us to revise our boundary plans.) That said, changing a boundary plan is never something we should do on our own. Making changes should always involve input from our therapist, our 12-step sponsor, and others who support our recovery. Changes to boundary plans are not made just because some “special situation” presents itself and we decide, in the moment, to make a change. Such behavior is not called “changing our plan,” it’s called “acting out.”

Just for Today
Consider the ways in which you may need to update your sexual sobriety plan. Discuss this with your therapist and your 12-step sponsor.