Sexual Sobriety Plans Need to Be Clear

When people will not weed their own minds, they are apt to be overrun by nettles.

Sexual sobriety plans, also known as circle plans and boundary plans, are created to define sexual sobriety and to provide recovering sex and porn addicts with a clear outline for a healthier, happier life. When our sexual boundaries are not clearly defined as part of this plan, we are far more likely to decide in-the-moment (with a bit of rationalizing, minimizing, justifying, etc.) that a certain activity is acceptable within the bounds of our plan, even if that behavior (or a similar behavior) has been wildly problematic in the past. Knowing this, we absolutely must be clear, concise, and definite with our sexual sobriety plans.

Task for Today
Identify weak spots in your sexual sobriety plan that leave you with wiggle room for acting out? Share this information with your therapist and your 12-Step sponsor to strengthen your recovery.