Sometimes, it takes incredible strength and courage to admit the truth.
Creating an effective sexual sobriety plan, sometimes referred to as a circle or boundary plan, requires brutal honesty on the part of not just the addict but the addict’s advisors. Unfortunately, if we want to continue with a particular behavior, no matter how problematic, we can usually convince someone to agree that it’s not such a big deal and to sign off on it. If we and our advisors cannot (or will not) see the truth of our situation, our problematic behaviors will continue and our life will not get better. So, as we craft our sexual sobriety plan, we need to remember that the purpose of that plan is to bring an end to the incomprehensible demoralization wrought by our addiction, not to justify its continuation.
Task for Today
Take an honest look at whether you’re keeping any secrets about your addiction as a way to create leeway for acting out.