Genuine kindness does not have ulterior motives.
After we’ve created our Step 8 amends list, writing down who we’ve harmed and how, we must examine our current feelings about each situation on our list, acknowledging emotions like guilt and shame, along with any lingering anger or resentments we may have. Next, we must examine our motives for making each specific amends. If our goal is simply looking good in the eyes of others, then we are not yet willing (the second part of Step 8) to make that amends.
Task for Today
Consider your motives in all that you do.