The willingness to do creates the ability to do.
For many recovering addicts the second half of step eight—becoming willing to make amends—is incredibly difficult. Sometimes we struggle for days, weeks, months, or even years before we find the requisite willingness. If we find ourselves battling old anger and resentments in this way, we might try praying (as sincerely as possible) for the other person’s health and wellbeing every morning and night for two weeks. Most of us find that doing this greatly diminishes lingering resentments. Positive affirmations like, “I am willing to make amends for my behavior, regardless of the actions of others,” can also be helpful. Usually, if we say this enough, we start to believe it.
Just for Today
Think of a long-held resentment and take at least one step toward releasing it.