There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth: not going all the way, and not starting.
For many recovering sex addicts, Step Eleven is relatively easy, especially if they arrived in recovery with an existing spiritual practice. In such cases, a renewed effort in that discipline is usually the way to go. The exception to this occurs when a person no longer trusts or believes in that discipline. This sometimes happens when the “religion of one’s childhood” has a scary, judgmental, punishing form of God, or when the people associated with that religion did not adequately practice what they preached. Others arrive in recovery with no sense of spiritual connection. Either way, if you find yourself searching for a Higher Power of some sort with no idea where to look, Step Eleven can feel daunting. But it needn’t. The only things required for success are open-mindedness and willingness, and by the time most of us reach Step Eleven we are more than a little bit familiar with these tenets.
Just for Today: Open your mind to the idea of Higher Power, even if you have no idea what that might look like.