Shame loses its power when shared with another loving person.
As sex and porn addicts, we can almost universally identify when other addicts talk about the ‘shitty committee’ that holds uninvited discussions in their head, or the ‘negative tapes’ that spin relentlessly between their ears, or the gremlins that live in their skull and scream “You suck!” at the top of their lungs at all hours of the day and night. Those noises are shame, and shame is a driving force in the formation and maintenance of sex and porn addiction (and all other addictions). Learning to recognize, understand, and overcome feelings of shame is integral to our process of healing and recovery.
Task for Today
Talk about the shaming messages that you hear in your head with supportive people in recovery and let them give you a reality check.