Tag Archives: denial

  • Addicts and the Blame Game
    Monday, January 13th, 2020

    Addicts and the Blame Game

    By Scott Brassart I didn’t come into substance and sex addiction recovery so I could heal or change my behaviors. I came into recovery because I thought that someone...
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  • Approaching Life Differently
    Saturday, January 11th, 2020

    Approaching Life Differently

    If nothing changes, nothing changes. When the road gets difficult, we can embrace the challenge and think about it as a chance to make ourselves and the world a...
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  • What is Denial?
    Monday, January 6th, 2020

    What is Denial?

    As addicts, we tell huge and powerful lies – most of all to ourselves. Active sex and porn addicts routinely ignore warning signs of problematic behavior – ruined relationships,...
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  • Rationalization
    Thursday, December 19th, 2019

    Rationalization

    Rationalization is the process of not perceiving reality, instead bending it to fit one’s desires. Pulitzer and Nobel Prize winning author William Faulkner once wrote, “Ingenuity was apparently given...
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  • Sex and Porn Addiction and ‘Denial’
    Tuesday, November 26th, 2019

    Sex and Porn Addiction and ‘Denial’

    Delay is the deadliest form of denial. As sex and porn addicts, we rationalize, minimize, and justify our sexual adventures, blaming everyone and everything but ourselves for our actions...
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  • The Aftermath of Acting Out
    Friday, November 8th, 2019

    The Aftermath of Acting Out

    As addicts, we’re not in denial. We’re just selective about the reality we accept. After we sexually act out, we attempt to distance ourselves emotionally from what we’ve just...
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  • The Role of Denial
    Thursday, October 24th, 2019

    The Role of Denial

    A core issue of active addiction is the avoidance of reality. Science fiction author Douglas Adams once wrote, “There is no point in using the word impossible to describe...
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  • Willful Ignorance
    Monday, August 12th, 2019

    Willful Ignorance

    We’re not in denial. We’re just selective about the reality we accept. For some of us, denial is so deep and so powerful that we somehow manage to stay...
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  • Minimization
    Monday, July 8th, 2019

    Minimization

    Pretending that a problem is not a problem will not make it go away. Sex and porn addicts are masters of denial. We blame, we justify, we rationalize, and...
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