Tag Archives: denial

  • The Aftermath of Acting Out
    Friday, November 8th, 2019

    The Aftermath of Acting Out

    As addicts, we’re not in denial. We’re just selective about the reality we accept. After we sexually act out, we attempt to distance ourselves emotionally from what we’ve just...
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  • The Role of Denial
    Thursday, October 24th, 2019

    The Role of Denial

    A core issue of active addiction is the avoidance of reality. Science fiction author Douglas Adams once wrote, “There is no point in using the word impossible to describe...
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  • Willful Ignorance
    Monday, August 12th, 2019

    Willful Ignorance

    We’re not in denial. We’re just selective about the reality we accept. For some of us, denial is so deep and so powerful that we somehow manage to stay...
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  • Minimization
    Monday, July 8th, 2019


    Pretending that a problem is not a problem will not make it go away. Sex and porn addicts are masters of denial. We blame, we justify, we rationalize, and...
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  • What Have You Missed?
    Sunday, May 12th, 2019

    What Have You Missed?

    A primary difference between addicts and non-addicts is non-addicts change their behavior to meet their goals, while addicts change their goals to meet their behaviors. As active sex and...
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  • How Denial Sets In
    Tuesday, April 30th, 2019

    How Denial Sets In

    Addicts would rather deny a hard truth than face it. Denial usually builds slowly over time through a series of small, seemingly innocuous lies. Typically, each lie has its...
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  • What is Denial?
    Sunday, March 3rd, 2019

    What is Denial?

    Sex addicts lie about their problematic behaviors – even to themselves. Active sex and porn addicts routinely ignore warning signs of problematic behavior – ruined relationships, depression and anxiety,...
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  • The Desire for Escape
    Sunday, February 17th, 2019

    The Desire for Escape

    Closing your eyes and plugging up your ears won’t fix anything. As active sex and porn addicts, we compulsively used sexual fantasy and activity as a way to numb...
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  • Blaming Others
    Thursday, February 14th, 2019

    Blaming Others

    Sex and porn addicts often place blame for their addiction on the actions of others. One long-sober sex addict jokes, “I didn’t come into sexual recovery to heal or...
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