The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.
As we heal from sex and porn addiction, honesty, integrity, self-knowledge, and a desire to be vulnerable and known for who we truly are, warts and all, slowly but steadily replace the double-life we’ve been living. Secrets, lies, and superficial connections disappear as we begin to feel better about our behavior and our self-identity. When taken on actively and honestly, recovery provides unexpected levels of emotional maturity and hope for a future filled with loving, life-affirming friendships and romantic relationships. Admittedly, working toward change is not easy, especially when our addiction is deeply rooted, but it pays big dividends over time.
Task for Today
Ask yourself: “Am I starting to feel more comfortable in my own skin?” Share your answer to this question in therapy, a 12-step meeting, or with a friend in recovery.