As sex and porn addicts, our primary coping mechanism for any and all forms of emotional and psychological discomfort is sexual fantasy. We start thinking about how much we enjoyed past sexual encounters and how much we would enjoy a sexual encounter either right now or in the near future. At that point, the sexual obsession kicks in. Suddenly, every person we encounter is seen as a sexual object. And no, our fantasies do not involve memories of bad experiences or unwanted consequences. Once we ‘lose ourselves’ in such a fantasy, it is very difficult to stop the addictive cycle. Usually, our best hope is to talk to another recovering addict who can remind of the consequences our addiction brings.
Task for Today
Debunk one of your favorite fantasies by adding its consequence-filled conclusion.