A core issue of active addiction is the avoidance of reality.
Science fiction author Douglas Adams once wrote, “There is no point in using the word impossible to describe something that has clearly happened.” Most sex and porn addicts could really use this advice. Instead of facing the truth about our behavior, we engage in denial. We create elaborate lies to make our actions seem OK (in our own mind). Sometimes, we admit that if someone else was engaging in the same behaviors, that person would be crazy and in desperate need of help, but for us it’s OK because…
Task for Today
Write down five lies you’ve used to make your behavior acceptable (in your own mind). Now share that list with someone else. Do your lies sound crazy? Are you embarrassed by them?