As sex and porn addicts, we cannot control the thoughts that pop into our minds. We can, however, control what we do with those thoughts once we become aware of them. One option is to implement the three-second rule. After recognizing a problematic sexual thought or fantasy, we allow ourselves a maximum of three seconds to turn away from it and focus on something else. Sometimes the three-second rule only helps for a few minutes, and during difficult periods unwanted sexual thoughts might pop into our minds almost constantly. One unwanted fantasy is banished, and moments later another arrives. In these situations, the three-second rule can be used repeatedly. And this is a good thing, because implementing the three-second rule on a regular basis can, over time, decrease the power of unwanted sexual thoughts (because these triggers are not rewarded/reinforced by acting out).
Task for Today
Pay attention to addictive sexual thoughts and fantasies and get rid of them as quickly as possible.