Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.
As recovering sex, porn, and love addicts, we learn, over time, through working the steps, talking with therapists and sponsors, and listening in twelve-step meetings, that when we are doubtful or agitated or depressed or anxious, we simply need to pause and ask our Higher Power to supply us with the right thought or action. Usually, that “next right step” will come to us within a few short moments; often we “hear” it as if our therapist or sponsor were speaking to us telepathically. If that doesn’t occur, we can simply call those folks to ask for their advice. We do this because we know that when we try to run the show based on self-will and our own ideas with no outside input, disaster ensues. We proved that over and over in our active addiction. So, in recovery when we are unsure or agitated, we ask for and accept outside input.
Just for Today
When I feel a strong emotion, I will pause and think before I act.