Knowing why you are a sex addict will not cure or even control your sexual addiction.
The first question anyone diagnosed with sexual addiction typically asks is pretty much the same: “How did I get this way?” Rather than focusing on the fact that we are sexually addicted and what we are going to do about it, we want to know if there is some external influence we can blame for our problems. Ultimately, of course, the reason we are sexually addicted is unimportant from the standpoint of healing. Nevertheless, this question is posed, often repeatedly, and sometimes we are unable (or unwilling) to move forward without some sort of answer. Maybe it’s time to let go of why and focus on what we’re going to do about it.
Just for Today
Ask yourself why you want to know “why”? Will it help your recovery, or do you just want someone else to blame?