If a man can control his mind, he can find the way to enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him.
As sex and porn addicts, we have lost control over our sexual fantasies and behaviors. Most often, this is evidenced by failed attempts to quit or cut back. Even consequences don’t motivate us. After getting in trouble at work for misusing our laptop, we swear off porn forever. But the next day we’re right back at it. After our spouse borrows our phone and discovers the hookup apps we’ve been using and the sexts we’ve been sending and receiving, we scrub our phones and swear that it will never happen again. A few days later, we’ve reinstalled the apps and we’re acting out yet again. This sort of thing is indisputable evidence that we are powerless over our addiction.
Task for Today
Try to count the number of times you tried (and failed) to control your addiction.