As sex and porn addicts, we are preoccupied with sex to the point of obsession. If we use hookup apps, we usually have profiles on half a dozen or more, and we check them first thing in the morning. Sometimes we get up in the middle of the night to check them. And if someone has displayed interest, we’ll forego a good night’s sleep to drive halfway across town to act out with them. If porn is our preferred behavior, we are just as obsessive. The same is true with affairs, strip clubs, prostitutes, webcams, voyeurism, etc. Whatever form our active addiction takes, we can’t stop thinking about it, fantasizing about it, and acting on it.
Task for Today
List five examples of your obsession with sex. Share your list in therapy or a 12-Step meeting.