To overcome our fears about attachment, we must face our fears and become attached.
Sex and porn addicts share certain characteristics. One of these common traits is that we don’t want others to see our neediness, vulnerability, and desire for emotional intimacy. So we continually chase an external, non-intimate, temporary fix. Ironically, this isolates us from ourselves, from our Higher Power, and from the people we long to be close to. As part of recovery, we must learn and accept what our true needs are, and then we must take a risk and share those needs with others. In other words, we must become vulnerable and risk rejection, the thing we most fear, to achieve intimacy, the thing we most desire.
Task for Today
Share an emotional secret with someone who cares about you. Notice how that person responds. Notice how you feel after sharing the secret.