What Have You Missed?

A primary difference between addicts and non-addicts is non-addicts change their behavior to meet their goals, while addicts change their goals to meet their behaviors.

Sex addicts often forget about the life they might have lived had they focused on their true goals instead of their addiction. It is only when we establish and maintain a year or so of sobriety that we begin to really see and understand how we were living and what it did to our outlook on life. When we start the process of recovery, we see the obvious consequences like ruined relationships, reprimands at work, financial expense, legal woes, and the like. As we get deeper into recovery, we begin to think about hobbies we used to enjoy, goals we wanted to accomplish, how we altered our values to stay in our addiction, and of all the hopes and dreams we had for ourselves and our lives before our addiction ran us off the rails. The good news is that these things are not forever lost to us. With long-term recovery, we regain our lost selves, reinstate previously discarded goals, and start to live in ways that just aren’t possible in active addiction.

Just for Today
Think about a goal you had in life that you discarded in your addiction and create an action plan for accomplishing this goal.