If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you.

When substance abuse is consistently fused with the hunt for and experience of intensely arousing sex, these paired behavioral patterns can become mutually reinforcing. Over time, even simple sexual fantasies and/or memories of past sexual acts can become a psychological trigger for substance use and abuse, and vice versa. Eventually, substances and sexual activity can become so tightly paired that engaging in one behavior inevitably leads to the other. For this type of dually addicted individual, getting drunk/high and seeking/finding/having sex becomes a single coexisting and complementary addiction.

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Consider the possibility that you may have a fused sex/substance addiction, and you might need treatment and recovery for both issues.