Addiction helps us imagine that we have some kind of mastery over life’s difficulties.
Sex and porn addicts share certain characteristics. One of these common traits is that we seek oblivion through compulsive porn use and sexual behaviors. We use sex and porn as distractions and time-killers—as an escape from living life on life’s terms. And we’re not alone with this. Alcoholics don’t drink to socialize and have fun; they drink to numb out. Drug addicts don’t use to enjoy time with friends; they use to turn off the negative chatter in their heads. Similar statements could be made about compulsive gambling, compulsive spending, and eating disorders. All addictive behaviors are driven by a desire for emotional escape, not pleasure. Sex and porn addiction are no different in this regard.
Task for Today
Choose to live in reality, whatever reality looks like and feels like.