We’re not in denial. We’re just selective about the reality we accept.
For some of us, denial is so deep and so powerful that we somehow manage to stay blissfully unaware of the nature and extent of our problematic sexual behaviors—even when those behaviors escalate to the point of ruining our relationships and our lives. Basically, we find ways to ignore the seriousness of our actions so we can continue with those actions. And this willful ignorance can go on for years. In fact, when confronted in the early stages of treatment and recovery with something as elemental as an adult-life sex and relationship history, many of us are shocked to finally ‘discover’ the extent and depth of our addictive behaviors.
Task for Today
Think of at least three ways you ignored the seriousness of your addiction. Share these in therapy or a 12-step meeting.