Willpower Alone Is Not Enough

Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.

Sex addicts nearly always require outside assistance to recover. If we could change things on our own, we would, but we can’t, so we don’t. This need for outside assistance is present with all forms of addiction, not just sexual addiction. And this is not surprising when we understand the factors that drive the problem – primarily an unbroken cycle of triggers, acting out, and denial. To overcome these dynamics, we nearly always need the insight and the accountability that only an objective outsider can provide. Shame and remorse about compulsive sexual behaviors and related consequences are not enough to keep us from backsliding when challenged by emotional and psychological discomfort. Willpower alone doesn’t cut it, and our promises to change – made to ourselves and others – almost inevitably fall by the wayside without therapy, 12-step recovery, or some other form of external assistance.

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