It’s discouraging to think how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.
Sometimes therapists specializing in infidelity and couple’s work suggest using the concept of ‘walls vs. windows’ as an analogy when helping unfaithful partners understand what their betrayed spouses are thinking and feeling. Dr. Shirley Glass explains this as well as anyone, writing, “You can have intimacy in your relationship only when you are honest and open about the significant things in your life. When you withhold information and keep secrets, you create walls that act as barriers to the free flow of thoughts and feelings that invigorate your relationship. But when you open up to each other, the window between you allows you to know each other in unfiltered, intimate ways.”
Task for Today
Do at least one thing that will help turn a wall into a window.