Working Step 4

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All daily inspirations can be found in the book Sex and Porn Addiction Healing and Recovery. Used here with permission of the author.

Until we face our shadows, they will haunt us.

The goal of Step 4 is for us to take a hard, unrelenting look at our problems and our role in creating those problems. After working Step 4, we realize that we are not victims; instead, we are active participants in the mess our lives have become. And believe it or not, this realization is empowering. In fact, many of us point to Step 4 as the turning point in our recovery. Before working Step 4, we were battling external factors—other people, events, and organizations that ‘drove us to addiction.’ By the time we’re done with Step 4, we know that the real enemy lives within. We understand that we, not others, are the cause of our misery. Our addiction belongs to us and no one else.

Task for Today
Stop blaming others for your problematic sexual behaviors.