Lies and secrets are a cancer to the soul. They eat away what is good and leave only carnage behind.
Plenty of recovering sex addicts tell themselves that their most distressing and disturbing behaviors should not be shared. Ever. Not even as part of step five. In fact, plenty of us embark on step five fully intending to omit our most shameful behaviors. That said, a lack of complete honesty when working step five is not only unwise, it is downright dangerous. Continuing to compartmentalize and hide from others the worst of ourselves creates anxiety, depression, remorse, and more—emotions that can drive us right back to active addiction.
Just for Today
My desire to recover will be stronger than my shame.