Until we face our shadows, they will haunt us.
The goal of Step Four is for us to take a hard, unrelenting look at our problems and our role in creating those problems. After working Step Four, we realize that we are not victims; instead, we are active participants in the mess our lives have become. And believe it or not, this realization is empowering. In fact, many of us point to Step Four as the turning point in our recovery. Before working Step Four we were battling external factors – other people, events, and organizations that “drove us to addiction.” By the time we’re done with Step Four, we know that the real enemy lives within. We understand that we, not others, are the cause of our misery, so our addiction belongs to us and no one else.
Just for Today
Stop blaming others for your problem sexual behaviors.