Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more consequences and failing to understand that we, not others, are at fault.
One way to measure the unmanageability of sex and porn addiction is to look at the consequences of our compulsive sexual behaviors, both direct (obviously connected) and indirect (less obviously connected). Many of us have relationship troubles, STDs, reprimands at work, and even arrests that are very obviously connected to our out-of-control sexual behaviors. Less obvious consequences may include depression, anxiety, feeling worn out, forgetting to pay bills, eating poorly, loss of interest in previously enjoyable activities, etc. Any and all of these issues, both direct and indirect, are examples of unmanageability.
Task for Today
List ten consequences of your addiction. Then share your list with another person in recovery.