For sex addicts, it takes incredible strength and courage to admit the truth.
Creating an effective sexual boundary plan requires brutal honesty on the part of not just the addict, but the addict’s advisors. Unfortunately, if we, as sex addicts, want to continue with a specific sexual behavior, no matter how problematic, we can probably convince someone to agree that it’s not such a big deal and to sign off on it. If we and our advisors cannot (or will not) see the truth of our situation, our problematic behaviors will continue and our lives will not get better. In recovery, we need to remember that the purpose of a sexual boundary plan is to end the incomprehensible demoralization wrought by our sexual addiction, not to justify its continuation.
Just for Today
Ask yourself if you’re keeping any secrets about your behavior that need to be addressed in your sexual boundary plan.