Sadly, and unfortunately, this is not a fairy tale, otherwise I would have closed and put down the book a long time ago. Accepting I have been living with a “Sex Addict” who on any given day, displayed the traits of “Peter Pan”, “Pinocchio” and “Jekyll and Hyde” is no picnic either. In an endeavour to pull myself from the mire that I was and am still facing daily, I accepted I needed help. As such, I scoured the internet until I came across www.seekingintegrity.com . I was not only impressed, but very grateful to have found resources on one site that provides some sense of sanity and comfort in such a trying time. In particular, the webinars provide a great opportunity to interact and ask questions anonymously, to receive an honest (sometimes brutally) constructive response, which I could not expect from any of the above characters. The Podcasts are very informative, and easy listening also. As such, I highly recommend anyone who is struggling with either betrayal or addiction related issues, “Check it out” as “ You have nothing to lose and everything to gain
— D.D., Australia
Dr. Rob validates partners in their relationship with an addict, helping partners find the truth of their situation, and to cut through the lies and excuses to find facts an reality. I can believe what Dr. Rob says because, as an addict himself, he has lived the addiction and recovery experience. I also know he feels the pain that partners go through because he displays the empathy we are looking for (but usually can't get from our addicted spouse). He has done a lot for my emotional well-being, giving me tools to identify red flags when they come up, and to recognize my partner's sincerity and sorrow. Tami's point of view is also helpful in identifying the triggers of his addiction and helping me understand that like the whack-a-mole game, he stops one addictive behavior and starts another. Dr. Rob and Tami have also noted that depression and anxiety can manifest along with addictions, and that is truly my partner's situation. They have helped me understand this. As of now, my partner says that terms like sexual trauma, neglect, and abuse do not resonate with him, but it's possible that that may change as he gets deeper into his recovery.