• Asking for Help
    Friday, January 24th, 2020

    Asking for Help

    It’s not the load that breaks you, it’s trying to carry the entire thing all by yourself. When we are triggered toward our addiction, the most effective way to...
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  • Addiction Creates Chaos
    Thursday, January 23rd, 2020

    Addiction Creates Chaos

    I am amazed at how many of my problems – most of which had nothing to do with my addiction, I thought – have become manageable or simply disappeared...
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  • Sharing Your Step One Inventories
    Wednesday, January 22nd, 2020

    Sharing Your Step One Inventories

    Letting go of secrets gives you the freedom to move forward with a different, better life. For most recovering sex and porn addicts, creating powerlessness and unmanageability inventories is...
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  • How Do We Best Define Cheating?
    Tuesday, January 21st, 2020

    How Do We Best Define Cheating?

    Infidelity is the most piercing of betrayals. When we are active in our sex or porn addiction, our definition of infidelity likely does not match our partner’s definition. We...
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  • Triggers
    Monday, January 20th, 2020

    Triggers

    Our biggest crises can be triggered by the smallest things. Triggers are catalysts that drive our need/desire to act out sexually. Most often, triggers involve some sort of ‘pain...
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  • Recognizing the Virtue of Adversity
    Sunday, January 19th, 2020

    Recognizing the Virtue of Adversity

    You must never limit your challenges. Instead, you must challenge your limits. Sometimes recovering addicts are happy just getting by. We’re sober for now, semi-comfortable, paying the bills, and...
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  • Sex vs. Love vs. Affection
    Saturday, January 18th, 2020

    Sex vs. Love vs. Affection

    Sex without love is as hollow and ridiculous as love without sex. Sex and porn addicts share certain characteristics. One of these common traits is that we are unable...
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  • Tolerance and Escalation
    Friday, January 17th, 2020

    Tolerance and Escalation

    Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of your addiction. Addicts of all types typically experience an increasing tolerance to the...
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  • The Importance of Twelve-Step Groups
    Thursday, January 16th, 2020

    The Importance of Twelve-Step Groups

    Recovering sex and porn addicts must attend only two types of 12-Step meetings: the ones they want to go to, and the ones they don’t want to go to....
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