• We Hurt Our Kids, Too!
    Tuesday, March 19th, 2024

    We Hurt Our Kids, Too!

    Your eyes are unfathomable to me, hostile, even, as if you have removed yourself to a place where I cannot reach you—somewhere I cannot know. Kids can’t help but...
  • Understanding Sexual Sobriety
    Monday, March 18th, 2024

    Understanding Sexual Sobriety

    In recovery, the road narrows but the horizon widens. In sexual recovery, the definition of and boundaries for sobriety are determined based on each addict’s unique history and goals....
  • Honesty in 12-Step Meetings
    Sunday, March 17th, 2024

    Honesty in 12-Step Meetings

    You can’t save your face and your ass at the same time. Many recovering sex and porn addicts worry that if they go to a 12-step meeting and tell...
  • Getting Out of a Rut
    Saturday, March 16th, 2024

    Getting Out of a Rut

    When life gets harder, challenge yourself to be stronger. Being stuck in a rut, whether that rut is addiction or some other aspect of life, is an indication that...
  • Working Step 3
    Friday, March 15th, 2024

    Working Step 3

    Spirituality is not adopting more beliefs; it’s uncovering the best in yourself. If you are among the addicts who want or need to reconceptualize their vision of God, the...
  • Adult-Life Symptoms of Covert Incest
    Thursday, March 14th, 2024

    Adult-Life Symptoms of Covert Incest

    Covert incest is like the air in the room. It’s here, but you don’t see it. Survivors of covert incest (individuals who were emotionally and psychologically sexualized by a...
  • Why Do We Need Healthy Boundaries?
    Wednesday, March 13th, 2024

    Why Do We Need Healthy Boundaries?

    Boundaries represent awareness, knowing what the limits are and then respecting those limits. When properly implemented, healthy boundaries promote healthy relationships, healthy intimacy, trust, and relationship safety. At the...
  • Using Sex as a Drug
    Tuesday, March 12th, 2024

    Using Sex as a Drug

    The goal is not sobriety; the goal is to love yourself so you don’t feel the need to escape through your addiction. Sex and porn addicts share certain characteristics....
  • The ‘Why’ of Addiction
    Monday, March 11th, 2024

    The ‘Why’ of Addiction

    Knowing why you are addicted will not cure or even control your addiction. The first question that almost anyone diagnosed with sex or porn addiction typically asks is pretty...