In this episode of “Sex, Love & Addiction” Dr. Rob welcomes Dr. Leon Seltzer. Dr. Rob and Dr. Seltzer discuss Dr. Seltzer’s work in intimate relationships, and early-life wounding and healing, including the role that childhood attachment trauma can play in adulthood in terms of picking romantic partners. They also discuss how defensive behavior and betrayal mirror the secrets and lies of addiction, and the paradoxical relationship between intimacy and relational pain. Lastly, Dr. Seltzer describes the qualities he sees in couples able to work their way through great difficulties, and what seems to be missing for those who are unable to overcome betrayal.