Asking for guidance is a divine compliment.
Sponsors are personal guides to healing and staying sexually sober. You choose a sponsor by listening to various people at meetings until you hear someone whose message resonates with you. When you find someone you connect with, you simply approach that person before or after a meeting and ask, “Are you available to be a sponsor and, if so, would you like to have coffee and hear my story?” This is the best way to start. If that person says no, don’t take it personally or give up. Just ask someone else.
Just for Today: Swallow your pride and your fears, and take a leap of faith.